“How do you keep up with all the demands at work and still manage to enjoy life? You have mastered work-life balance!”
I get this questions a lot especially when people try to assess my life based on the things that I post on social media. It would appear that I spent most of my time going places and meeting people but that does not mean my life is just about enjoying it. At the same time, I am not the type of person who post my work woes and challenges on social media as it should be dealt with professionally.
I also don’t know how to respond to these questions because I deal things differently and I don’t want to appear insensitive to other people especially that they have their own struggles. I also have my own issues but let’s just say that I have learned to live with it and focus on more positive things instead. My work schedule is crazy, especially my last three years. I travel a lot but most of it are work-related. I have missed a lot of celebrations, important occasions at home, unintentionally ditched blind dates and even some holidays are spent working. This may be crazy but this is the kind of work that I have chosen and been doing so this has become a norm for me.
I become frustrated too but instead of sulking with the realities, I decided to turn the tables on my advantages. I decided to make the most of every opportunity that is being provided. If i travel for work, I make sure that I have time to explore the place and negotiates with our admin for me to extend a day or weekend (on my own personal cost). If i have to attend workshops or training, I enjoy the amenities like the air-conditioned room, the hot shower and freebie. If i have to attend and take part on extra activities, I give up some me time and have to extend working hours but I would just think that this will be all worth it especially for all the new learning and experiences thar I will get in exchange of it. Whenever I get to do field work near my hometown, i always head home even if i have to travel long hours in the bus just to spend even a day with my family.
I realized that work-life balance is a choice that we have to make given the circumstances surrounding us though there will be setbacks and challenges along the way. I am not saying I am good at work-life balance but maybe I have learned to balance happiness especially those that I can get from my career, family and whatever there is available especially that some situations are difficult to control but our outlook can. 🙂
During the Lenten Season, I decided to go back to my hometown for a much needed break and to do a lot of thinking before transitioning to a new job and a new place. After three good long years in Agusan del Sur, our project has ended and I was offered a new job in the same organization but in a totally different place. I really don’t have a problem moving though it means I have to be away from my family especially from my cute niece but I have long accepted that this is the career that I choose and that change is a normal thing in the development world.
The idea of being away form home is a little bit saddening but I know that no matter where my feet will take me, I will always find myself going home from time to time because there’s no place greater than home plus home-cooked meals.
My short sojourn to my hometown provided me the needed break to rest and sleep really well after spending sleepless weeks in delivering close-out requirements for our project. Of course, my short break will never be complete without beach time especially that my province is popular for its beaches and sea features. Here are two of my favorite haven.
Sun Rise Beach Resort , Brgy. San Ignacio, Manay, Davao Oriental
Dahican Beach, Mati City, Davao Oriental
Last August, I spent a month in Metro Manila to attend the ASEAN Youth Volunteer Programme. During my month stay in the city, I was glad for the opportunities to visit different historical sites and museums and also the chance to share about the rich history of Philippines to my co-participants from across the ASEAN countries.
Luneta Park and Fort Santiago
Good thing, I could still remember some of the details about Rizal and The Battle of Manila which made me the on-the-spot tour guide to my co-participants as I was explaining to them the significance of Rizal and the place in our history.
The best part during our National Museum Tour is that the entrance fee has been lifted and free for all.
President Quezon Museum in Quezon Circle
We were invited to attend the Quezon Day Celebration and gladly toured the museum.
I feel frustrated that we have to deal with the demons that other people created to serve their self vested interests. We have to fight off and carry the torch because we want to prove them otherwise. That moment that we waited came and all our efforts paid off. Our actions set the motion to show them how distorted their views about us just because they decided to keep up with the demons instead of fighting it off.
Vindicated we may have but I feel frustrated of the lost time and opportunities because we were judged than supported. I may have forgiven them especially those people who are directly involved but I am still reeling from all the consequences of their actions. I do not wish them to suffer but they should have at least their own share of the consequences of their actions.
I know but I think this is something that I must remind myself especially when dealing with other people. There is a system that enables such injustices and no matter how hard we want the world to be fair, sometimes it isn’t just fair.
no worries, I am not gonna suck up things such as that. i do not wish for revenge but someone has got to stand up for what is right. I will not be deterred.